Day 4

The lonely woman has a hungry heart.

When Black women get together to talk, the conversation inevitably jerks toward men. We may have unique stories to tell about our fathers, brothers, husbands, sons, and lovers but we sing the same sad songs. Why won't they talk to us? Why do they leave? Why are they so strange? We commiserate on the phone, or worse, we eat boxes of doughnuts, bags of potato chips, and gallons of ice cream. What's a lonely woman to do? Well, begin by not looking at your sister friendships as poor seconds to your relationships with men. They each have their place, and as we know, if a relationship with a man falls apart, it's the sisterfriend who listens and consoles us. Second, start moving. Exercise is a great antidote to depression, releasing all those feelgood endorphins in the brain. Most important, if you've done all you can do and your relationship still does not make you happy, maybe it's time to move on.

I will eat to satisfy hunger, not to push down emotions.